“It’s a tangled web I weave” This phrase I would attribute to my single life more often than not. This simple phrase sums up the idea that dating, however you want to define it, is confusing and exhilarating, complicated and a down right pain in the ass most of the time. Because when you are single and trying to figure it all out what is the one thing you want to do???? Yep… keep your options open.
Keeping your options open… aka whoever you shall meet is a potential option regardless of who has already become an option. Now, don’t get confused! Everyone of your options need to be kept at a distance otherwise you risk hurting feelings. Or is it just me?! Do I find the guys that don’t understand the simplistic idea of dating and just have to dive right in to loving me even though its more than obvious I am not looking for love? And please do not misunderstand me, I have never considered myself to be the catch of all! I like myself, I think I am fun and easy going and I know how to care for people. But at the end of the day I always seem to find the guys who want it all and can’t wait.
Keeping your options at a distance also protects yourself because some guys will leave on their own accord and you don’t need to let yourself hurt over a guy who was barely a part of your life. It also protects you from any potential dick bag losers who have snuck their way into being an option. So, when the true colors shine and you realize there is no chance in hell this guy has a shot with you, you can remove him without the heartache. (Sounds a bit heartless at this point doesn’t it? Yea well… )
Heartless, another word that gets tossed around while I’m dating. Mostly because I do not invest myself in others. Blame it on being burned I guess, or a deep rooted feeling that maybe I have invested all of my emotion in the past and just never really go it back. And I am sorry to anyone I meet, but I really have nothing for idle behavior. You want my heart, win it.
And there is the clincher! The reason why dating is such an epic pain in the ass! Tell me ladies, (single anyways) when is the last time you have had a guy really wow you?? Guys want our love and our devotion and undivided attention but please tell me what they are doing these days to try and get that? And when they don’t get it… heartless, bitch, bitter, cynical… I have heard them all! But I’m sorry, I refuse to give you what you want because you think you deserve it. You don’t deserve anything from me just like I deserve nothing from you! But if you want this to go anywhere than please for the love of females everywhere WOW ME!
Until then, until some man (notice… I said MAN) comes along and puts in as much effort as I would, I will keep on dating, weaving the tangled web and keeping this heart of mine on lock down.