Sabotage: a deliberate action aimed at weakening / loosening an entity through subversion, obstruction, disruption, or destruction. Most definitions are used in conjunction with the idea of war, but love is war and all is fair so this definition and discussion will work hand in hand perfectly for me.
So there is boy and there is girl. Boy likes girl and does what he can to win girls heart. Girl falls for boy. Girl compares to other boy. You get what I am trying to say here.
I am not offering advice. I am not giving solutions. I am asking for help. Help me to understand how one can move forward in a relationship that isn’t perfect without sabotaging it herself or reaching for excuses to run like the wind.
Go to excuses: insecurity, lack of trust, finding every little thing that may be wrong with HIM to justify getting out now.
Go to sabotage: excessive stubbornness, unwarranted agitation, laissez faire attitude about basically everything, opening doors for inappropriate situations that cause tension.
And there you have it. The end will inevitably come because you yourself suck.